A woman in her mid-thirties recently shared her difficult experience on Reddit, recounting her husband’s shocking reaction to the news that they were expecting twins.
They were excited to expand their family, but were met with resistance and despair from her husband, which made the woman question their entire marriage.
Here is her story.
‘I am a woman, 35 years old, married to a 45-year-old man for over 7 years,’ she began, explaining that they already have four children.
On her husband’s recent birthday, she decided to surprise him and tell him about the pregnancy.
“I surprised him with the pregnancy test result — we were expecting our fifth child.
He seemed to freak out when he heard this and said, ‘No, that’s impossible, we were careful’.
I thought he would be happy, because he himself said when we were dating that he wanted lots of children.”
The situation worsened during a visit to the gynaecologist.
“The doctor said I was 10 weeks pregnant and that we were having twins.
My husband flew into a rage.
He shouted, “No, no, no, no, no”.
I lost count of how many times he said it.
After his outburst in the doctor’s office, he told me that he simply couldn’t have six children at his age.
I didn’t understand what he was talking about, because I knew he wanted a big family.
He wanted this.
I cried and asked what we were going to do now, and he kept repeating that he just couldn’t have six children.
The conversation took an even darker turn on the way home.
He said he shouldn’t have gotten married and had children, and that he no longer knew if his life had any meaning, that he would be happy to have a ‘reset’ button.
I reminded him that it takes two to conceive a child, and that it wasn’t just my fault.
The next morning, I woke up to the sound of the children screaming and crying, begging their father not to leave.
It turned out that he had already packed his things and was ready to leave.
My three-year-old was hugging his father’s suitcase and crying, while his face remained stony.
That’s when I realised I had been foolish to make the mistake of marrying him.
It’s hard for me now because I’m pregnant, but I have a full-time job, we have a nanny, and we have the support of family and friends.
It’s better if he leaves.
I don’t need another child to take care of.
Reddit users were divided in their opinions, expressing both sympathy and criticism.
A real husband would have stayed and talked to his wife, who is going through the same thing, but also has to carry twins.
He just ran away without thinking about other people’s feelings and traumatised his own children!
What a selfish person.
I hope the children take after their mother.
You are absolutely right, even if he comes back with apologies, he has already shown who he is.
And who needs someone like that around?
Congratulations on the children.
It’s actually his fault.
If he didn’t want to risk having six children, he should have used contraception or had a vasectomy.
This man is tired at 45 and has just realised that he will be 63 when his youngest children become adults.
And his wife will only be entering the age he is now…
I’m not saying he should abandon his family, but, my goodness, he’s having a nervous breakdown, he’s not necessarily the devil.
I have a bunch of children: I had my first at 30 and my last at 43…
And yes, I’ll get a bunch of dislikes, but for me, the prospect of having a child at 46 is like a nail in the coffin.
I definitely couldn’t do it anymore.
It’s too hard.
Six children is serious, but nevertheless, any man who abandons his children is not worthy of remaining in your life.
The fact that he left right in front of them is madness.
Everyone who is angry at the husband is wrong themselves.
Four children is already a huge family.
There are many more details to this story, and I think it’s quite understandable for a man to lose his mind at the news that he has six children, and that the youngest are twins, at the age of 45.
What a pity…
I am nine years older than my wife.
We had our first child when I was 42.
Five years later, twins were born…
I was almost 50, and now, almost 10 years later, I realise that it was the best thing that could have happened.
I disagree.
People have nervous breakdowns.
It doesn’t mean that they’ve changed as people or that they’ve been hiding these feelings all along.
People have nervous breakdowns.
This does not mean that they have changed as individuals or that they have been hiding such feelings all this time.
I would advise the author of the story to wait a little and sign up for therapy — both for herself and for her husband — before getting a divorce.
