We were obligated to celebrate their 40th anniversary. Coordinated red shirts, dinner in the oven, cake from that expensive bakery my mum always says ‘it’s overpriced but worth it’. I took this picture right before we sat down at the table.
They looked happy enough, right?
But I noticed something that no one else did. The way Mum kept rubbing her chain. That sternness in her smile that didn’t ripen her eyes. The way Dad joked and told stories and she barely spoke at dinner.
Later that night, when I went to help Mum do the dishes, I asked if everything was okay.
She stared at the sink for a few seconds and then said: He’s a good man. Just…not the man I married.’
I didn’t know what to say back.
Then she added: ‘Sometimes people grow together. Sometimes they just grow up. And you get so used to pretending everything’s okay that you forget what it’s like not to pretend.’
That struck me. I thought of all the times she’d missed his comments, how often she’d cleaned up his forgetfulness, how she’d always made excuses for him – he was tired, he didn’t mean it, he was just used to it that way.
I looked again at the picture I’d taken earlier. Dad is glowing with a smile. Mum is holding his hand, as if holding back something completely different.
And then she said something I wasn’t prepared for:
‘Promise me that if it’s ever like this…you won’t wait forty years to say anything.’
I nodded, but before I could answer, we both heard the front door open.
Dad went out for a quick walk, but came back with something in his hand.
And that’s when everything changed.
He walked into the kitchen, still in his red shirt, holding a small, crumpled paper bag. He looked… nervous. Which was odd. Dad never looked nervous.
He cleared his throat and said: ‘I was going to wait for dessert, but, uh…I think I’ll do it now.’
Mum turned off the tap, wiping her hands slowly. ‘Do what now?’ – She asked, looking respectfully at the bag.
He walked over and set it carefully on the table. ‘I stopped by Marco’s jewellery shop. You know, the one next to that bakery you like.’
I blinked. Mum was just looking at him.
He opened the bag and pulled out a small box. My heart started beating faster. We weren’t a family used to ‘surprises’. Birthdays were frugal. Holidays were practical. Dad giving jewellery? That was something new.
He opened the box and revealed a delicate gold bracelet. Nothing too flashy. Just simple, elegant. Very much for her.
‘I know I’ve been… aloof,’ he said, his voice shaking for a second. ‘I know I’m used to you always being the one to keep us afloat. And I don’t say this often enough – or maybe I never have – but I see you. And I love you. Still do. Even when I’ve forgotten how to show it sometimes.’
I looked at Mum. She was stooped over. Her hands were gripping the edge of the sink as if she needed to lean on it. She looked at the bracelet, then at him, and said quietly: ‘Why now?’
He slowed his step, then with the most frank expression on his face I’d ever seen, said: ‘Because I overheard what you said. That I’m not the man you married? And you’re right. I’m not the one. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to try to be better.’
The room was quiet for a long time.
And then Mum did something I wasn’t expecting – she laughed. Not hard. Just that kind of amazed, quiet smile. You bought me a bracelet, you overheard me? – She said, raising an eyebrow.
‘I panicked,’ he admitted. ‘But I meant every word.’
She reached out and touched the bracelet. Then raised her gaze to his. ‘It’s not about the gift, you know.’
‘I know,’ he replied quickly. ‘I just… wanted to do something. Start something.’
She took a deep breath. ‘Okay,’ she said, almost in a whisper. ‘Let’s start with this.’
He slipped the bracelet onto her wrist, his hands trembling slightly. She let him. And for the first time that night, her smile looked real.
Later, when they went to bed, I stayed seated, looking at that picture again. It looked different now, even though nothing had changed. I guess once you recognise the story behind the picture, you start to look at it differently.
The next morning, over a cup of coffee, Mum surprised me again.
‘I think I want to sign up for a pottery class,’ she said, stirring her tea.
I blinked. ‘What?’
I’d always wanted to. Just… never found the time.’ She hesitated. ‘But I think it’s time to start making time. For yourself.’
I smirked. ‘I think that’s a great idea.’
She smirked back. ‘You know, your dad asked if he could come with me.’
I raised an eyebrow. ‘Really?’
She nodded. ‘We’ll see. I told him he could come to one class. Just for one. And then we’ll decide.’
In the weeks that followed, nothing straightened out overnight. Dad was still forgetting things. Mum still lost her patience sometimes. But there was something new between them – effort. real, visible effort. It was as if they finally remembered that this was a team sport.
And watching them teach each other anew – through pottery classes, long walks, quiet evenings when they actually talked – I realised something I didn’t know I needed to learn:
Love is not just staying. It’s not showing yourself, even after you’ve forgotten how to do it. It’s choosing that person over and over again – even when it’s hard, even when you’ve both changed.
It’s noticing the nervous movements of fingers. The quiet smiles. The words that weren’t spoken – and having the courage to ask.
Mum wore red to ‘match’ her booty. But now, a few weeks later, I see her wearing colours she likes – not just ones that blend in with someone else’s story. And that makes a huge difference.
So if you feel like something is off – say something. Start with something. Before forty years go by.
You never know. Maybe the person across from you is also waiting for a sign to start over.
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