Where A Child Should Sleep: Letting Them Sleep In Their Parents’ Bed For Too Long May Not Be So Beneficial


The stories are always similar. The baby is born, and adapting to new routine is not easy for anyone. We know it takes a long time before everything falls into place, until the baby and mother are used to breastfeeding, the new patterns of sleep, the occasional colic, changing diapers, and so many other new details that should be tended to on a day-to-day basis.

During and after this period of adaptation, it is very common for the parents to have the child sleep in their own bedroom, either on the same bed or on a cradle next to it. This can make it easier to breastfeed during the night, to change diapers, and to hear any cries of distress coming from the baby. Babies and small children always keep their parents in high-alert, don’t they? The slightest sign of distress, either a deeper breath or a so far unheard murmur, can trigger the parents’ instinct to make sure their baby is well and protected.

More often than not, however, as child grows up and develops, they are still kept in the parents’ bedroom and, as time passes by and this routine becomes the new normal, it is barely noticeable. Until there comes a moment when the parents realize that kid always sleeps between them. They either wake up in the middle of the night, weeping with fear and begging to join their parents, or even come in quietly and climb onto the bed. Not to mention that some of them are likely to master the nuances of emotional blackmail quite early.

This transition from sleeping near their parents to sleeping alone in their own bedroom is often a difficult time, both for the child and their parents. Sleeping in the same bedroom may be pleasing to everyone, but it can also be harmful to the parents and their relationship as a couple. Also, it can hinder the proper development of the child.

There is neither a right time nor an appropriate age to make this transition, but it is important to do it as soon as possible, so that any negative impact can either be avoided or lessened. Ideally, this transition should be carried out in a pleasant manner by parents, who should make the child’s own space attractive for them. Parents should also comment frequently on how good and fun it is for the child to have their special corner.