Mom adopted a boy that nobody wanted, 28 years later he paid her back with a huge sacrifice


A mother’s love and her dedication to her child was rewarded in kind.

Ingeborg McIntosh had been fostering unwanted children for many years, and the children came and she loved them; and when an adoptive home was found for them, they went away. Then, one day, 28 years ago, she told Newsner, on September 4, 2017, one little baby boy stole her heart.

Jordan was placed with McIntosh as a newborn, and she felt a bond with him she had never experienced with any of the other 124 children she had fostered over the years. She was determined to adopt him and asked the birthmother’s permission to do so.

Jordan’s mother wanted him placed with an African American family and refused to allow the adoption. For four years, Jordan was in McIntosh’s home, but no Black family made an offer to adopt him, so eventually, his biological mother reluctantly agreed to allow McIntosh to adopt.

“Everything she’s done for me since I was a kid, I just wanted to give it back to her, and show her how much I appreciate her.”

Jordan McIntosh, Newsner, 4th September 2017

Jordan grew up in a loving family, as a happy and much-loved child. All seemed set for a happy-ever-after, but then disaster struck. 20 years after she had adopted Jordan, McIntosh was diagnosed with polycystic kidney disease.


Polycystic kidney disease is the fourth leading cause of kidney failure, and people with kidney failure will need dialysis for the rest of their lives, or a kidney transplant. Without saying a word to his mother, Jordan had himself tested, to see if he was a match for McIntosh, and he was.


He then told his mother he intended to make a living donation of one of his kidneys. He was determined to give back just a fraction of all the love and care she had lavished on him all his life since he was a baby. McIntosh didn’t want Jordan to go through with the transplant, she was afraid of the risk he might be running, spending the rest of his life with just one kidney, but Jordan was stubborn and would not give up.


The operation went through, it was a success and mother and son recovered from the procedures in perfect health. Jordan feels he has done no more than the bare minimum for the woman to whom he owes all that he is and will ever be: his mother, Ingeborg McIntosh.