Playing outside, getting into trouble, and doing whatever a child can do to stay a child was our main activity as children. However, our behavior as adults is determined by the setting we grew up in.
Researchers have conducted intriguing research about the process of human growth and the effects of the environment on adult behaviors. Research has associated increased cases of depression and alcohol abuse in adults with childhood trauma. Adults are often advised to reflect on mentors, positive influences, as well as experiences that have influenced their personality.
You are probably aware of the fact that both low and high moments shape our personality either negatively or positively. This is particularly vital at a young age when the brain is quickly developing. Our psyche as children could be greatly affected by simple things such as an unheard request for assistance, or an unrecognized facial expression. This article presents 24 characteristics of adults who were emotionally abused during their childhood.
1. Commitment Problems
These problems are usually associated with bad experiences during childhood. Perhaps they trusted someone who betrayed them or betrayed someone who trusted them. This leads to the lack of commitment.
2. Autopilot Mode
Sometimes the person will disconnect from an important social event or conversation. This is mainly attributed to disassociation, a trait learned in childhood. We should not feel offended because this does not happen deliberately.
3. Changing Moods
You will notice that they keep on changing their moods from time to time even though everything seems normal. This happens because they have already had similar experiences in childhood and their only response is to change their behavior.
They probably lacked the privilege to talk to someone during tough childhood moments. This explains why they started doing harmful acts to themselves and adopted the same behavior even today.
5. Concealed Anger
Sometimes it is hard for people to forget hurtful things that happened in childhood. They just conceal these experiences only to reveal them abruptly where necessary. One sign of this problem is the sudden anger outbursts that occur from time to time.
The problem of being constantly nervous is directly associated with several childhood traumatic experiences. People with this problem get disconcerted easily.
7. Low Confidence Levels
People with this problem do not believe that they can accomplish anything. This feeling is associated with disappointment during childhood when they needed help from someone.
8. Lack of Self-Esteem
This happens if the person lacked affection and experienced constant teasing as a kid. It may also result from the absence of friends during childhood and affected individuals tend to keep it to themselves.
9. They Don’t Appreciate Compliments
They assume that people do not give honest compliments. Therefore, they will respond harshly or regard the person giving the compliments as a liar.
They feel uncomfortable when talking because people despised and made them feel bad during childhood.
11. They Dislike Being With Other People
They may not be interested in people because of how other people treated them as kids. They were probably ignored, bullied, or teased.
12. Harsh on Themselves
They are sometimes harsh on themselves (emotionally and mentally) if they are unable to deal with a situation. This may also occur when things are on the right track. They will always find a reason to be unhappy because of emotional torture in childhood.
13. They Hate Conflicts
They develop anxiety during conflicts. Therefore, they are likely to run away from problems instead of trying to face and deal with them.
14. They Dislike Eye Contact
They tend to avoid eye contact and this problem is directly linked to the previous point. They hate conflict, which may result from direct eye contact. In addition, they like keeping quiet and this makes it more difficult to look at people directly.
15. They are Afraid of Abandonment
This happens if someone left them during childhood, especially a parental figure, or if their parents got a divorce. The affected person never forgets the incident.
16. They Tend To Be Defensive
Some people experienced many arguments during their childhood. As a result, their personality has turned out to be defensive and negative for self-defense purposes.
17. They Hate Human Contact
Since they are afraid of abandonment, they are likely to avoid human interactions and meetings. They may not be interested in seeing people.
18. They Hate Loud Noises
This shows that they grew up in an environment characterized by a lot of shouting and screaming, which makes them feel angry. They may have experienced violence because of these incidents.
19. Overdoing Things
This occurs if they had a rough life as children and they try to be perfect in order to compensate and make everyone like them. They were probably lonely as kids, so they want to avoid the same experience.
20. Poor Decision Makers
Perhaps someone told them that they could never do anything good during childhood. This is why they are not sure whether they are making the right or wrong decisions.
21. Harsh but Soft
They may appear tough but they are silently sensitive because they have gone through different emotions.
22. Apologizing All The Time
They may have grown up in an environment where people saw them as useless people, or where they had to say sorry even if they did not offend anyone. This is why they tend to apologize when they fail to do something or disagree with someone.
23. Second Guessing Everything
This problem is linked to the inability to make the right decisions. It may occur if they were shouted at because of their decisions, or if they relied on the decisions made by other people regardless of whether they accepted or not.
24. Very Meek
They have experienced many problems growing up, but they are good at appreciating everything good aspect of their life. In addition, they are resilient and thankful because they have endured the challenges.